When we fall for the Hollywood myth that perfect romance happens as a matter of chemistry, attraction and infatuation rule our hearts and heads. When the luster of emotion begins to fade, we begin to believe something is wrong with the other person. So we break up and set off looking for The One with whom the chemistry will never fade. Hollywood says you know it’s right if it feels right so you start with intimacy and that naturally leads to becoming lifelong partners and friends.
The truth in God’s economy is almost exactly opposite. Friends who fully know and accept each other make for a solid foundation on which to build a lasting commitment. The act of committing leads to the the choice to love someone for the rest of your life, regardless of emotions, circumstances or fleeting feelings of sexual attraction.
When the relationship is out of step with how a healthy and lasting relationship should develop women become vulnerable to a host of problems up to and including abortion.
But there is a better way.
Robin Jones Gunn helps women unravel the myth in light of God’s timeless wisdom. In her latest book, Spoken For: Embracing Who You Are and Whose You Are, Robin asks:
“How different would our lives be if we actually believed that we are loved, wanted, pursued and cherished?”
Gunn collaborated with popular young blogger Alyssa Joy Bethke in this book which also reflects the value of mentoring for young women developing healthy relationships in every area of life.